My father is my mom. Yes, I said it! He is a mom to me simply because he emulates the qualities of a mother. No, not in the literally sense, but the deeper, more important aspect of the title. The part of the role that pertains to being a source of wisdom, an incessant nagger about proper hygiene, the harshest critic and the most faithful supporter.

This line is the exact opposite of the popular and more "followed" line: "life is short". However, when you think of it, life really is pretty long. So many years, months, days, hours, minutes, and hours go by and its pretty overwhelming. My dad told us, this frequently as he wanted us to realise that we shouldn't stress out on doing this, going there, achieving that all in a small period of time. Because when we put fixed deadlines and goals for ourselves and then those things don't turn out the way we wanted them to or as quickly as we wanted them to, we crumble and feel like the biggest bag of failure that ever was. And I had to give it to him, I found myself in that situation several times already. To fix this, I needed to realise that its okay for Plan A not to work, its okay if your 5 year plan doesn't take you exactly where you want to be. Instead, I need to enjoy the pace of my life because I'm eventually gonna get there. And maybe you should do yourself a favour and think so too.

Im going to address this right now...I DONT WANT YOU GOING OUT SPENDING MONEY YOU DONT HAVE.

 The importance of seeing yourself as rich is in its ability to make yourself feel better about who you are and where you are. My dad said "If you have 10,000 Php, tell yourself "I am rich" because you have 10,000 Php." Basically, be content with what you have. We all know that money doesn't equal happiness but the assurance of have a basic need and not being afraid to spend it does. With being content with what you have also means allowing yourself to enjoy what you have. My father told me that rich people are often the cheapest of all people. They are stingy when it comes to money and end up pitying themselves because they aren't able to fully see the fruits of their labor.

So say it with me guys: "I am rich."

We all know that the world doesn't revolve around us but what will really make a difference is when we finally know that OUR world shouldn't revolve around us. Making it our OWN world instead of just THE world can make a huge difference in how we will live out our lives. Its the switch from indifference to compassion and care for one another. My father loves his family and would always go the extra mile to show them his love and support. Whether it was in the form of paying for the dinner or renovating my grand parent's house. He told me that even if these things cost money and time, he saw all of it as the source of something greater, true happiness. And choosing to switch our focus from ourselves to others will make that true happiness easier to achieve. 

Dream high. Reach for the stars. These are things that are often said to us. However, whats not usually being said is the possible road bumps and up hill battles on the way before we reach our destination. I mean, who HASN'T gotten frustrated when trying to accomplish something. I remember the time when I was still trying to make french macarons, I was in my FOURTH try and I still couldn't perfect them. I was so annoyed with myself. We can't completely avoid failure but we can adjust our attitude towards work. 

One night my father and I were have another one of those wisdom filled conversations and he told me about the downside of being too goal oriented. He told me that if we focus too much on all the "I wants" in life, we might just end up stressed and filled with tears when we don't get what we expect. He told me about the happiness that comes with simply just working and being satisfied with what you're doing then looking up to see what you've achieved through "just" working. If you apply this into your life, what would have seemed like decades of waiting for your labor to bare fruit will become months of being productive and content every single day.

This may seems detached but think about it. How many times has your father told you to eat your fruits and veggies? Mine probably told me to remember to eat my fruits and veggies 10000 times over and in the early stages of my life, I didn't really listen. However, 3 years ago my family got a juicer and I was slowly starting to favour the green side (hehehe this was me trying to seem witty). Now, whenever I would feel down or I would feel physically unwell, I would crave for a veggie juice or some fruits and when I do get to satisfy those cravings, I magically feel better :) No pain relievers need!

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 I have never really made a post this chatty before and I don't know if it'll get as much views but hey, if I wanna write about something, Im gonna write about it.

I hoped you all enjoyed reading this. PEACE OUT~

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